Her: Can I ask you something?
Me: Sure
Her: How am I as a conversationalist?
Me: What?
Her: You know, like when you speak to me. What do you think of my conversing skills. Am I good to speak to?
Me: Wow, thats a really complex… hmm… how do I answer this.
Her: Come on you can be honest. I know there are people you just cant speak to, then there are people you can speak to for hours without knowing. I just want to know if I am engaging as a conversationalist.
Me: Hmm… Ok this is a little complex. I think conversations are more like relationships, it depends on the two people involved. No one person is perfect or imperfect for having conversations. There is lot of give and take, it works better when both people are really interested in the conversation and when they really care about what is being said.
Her: Hmm… I get what you are saying. But I know people who are fun to speak to and lot of other people think that too. Its the same with some people who aren’t fun at all to speak to.
Me: Yeah, I understand but there have been situations where the person I was speaking to was really enjoying the conversation but the people sitting around us weren’t. It boils down to context and interest I guess.
Her: Hmm…
Me: There are people with whom I almost always say the same things and talk about the same stuff. I almost know immediately where the conversation is heading. Then, there are a few people with whom I have no idea what is going to be said.
Her: Like me
Me: Well, there are friends whom I can call after months and years and we just hit off like we met just the previous day. I can speak to them for hours without knowing and I always end up feeling good at the end of it.
Her: So what you are saying is that I am really good at conversing.
Me: I never said that!
Her: Well you didn’t need to, you were implying it all along.
Me: Hey you are now assuming stuff.
Her: No no, this conversation is over. I got my answer. Thank you :)
Me: (shakes head)