Stood up…
February 27, 2006 4:16 pmIt sucks to be stood up and I got a taste of that last week… Its really irritating to wait and the person never shows up or calls. In this case sadly it was the same person and it happened 3 times.
I was supposed to catch a evening snack with * (* for all future references is ‘this person’), I was waiting from 5 and tried calling a couple of times but no answer… I thought * must hv gone out with *’s family(considering it was a sunday).
I get a apology the next day and an assurity of a call later in the day. The call never comes… I just go to sleep waiting(I didnt call * for reasons)… There is an apology later and another promise for a call… This time I dont wait up for it(Once bitten twice shy…) It never comes.
* had also promised to hv a cup of coffee with me this weekend but it never happened too. (I did not rely on * showing up totally).
Now to the part thats most irritating… I meet * over the weekend and its like nothing has happened… * gives a smile and a ‘hi’ [Thousands of knives stab me all over] and I reply politely with a hi and a smirk(I find it almost impossible to be rude to ppl)
* point of view might be different. I know for a fact that *’s week in the office was the worst ever… * might hv simply forgotten to tell me, well * did apologise twice for it. I will definately tell * what I felt coz I tell friends when they piss me off… It totally reduces any form of miscommunication or misunderstanding and gets me a good nights sleep as well.
Any Suggestions feel free to drop them…
UPDATE:
* apologised and things are pretty much back to where it was… Well, I hv not asked out * again but we hv kept the phone company in business a lot lately 
12 Responses to “Stood up…”
Sigh.. Who is * ?
Why no name? Do you have to be so…
And I totally agree with you about being stood up.. Not only are girls late _most_ of the times, it’s not a big deal should they stand you up. And you stand them up just once and as the saying goes, “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”
Good idea about telling her how you felt. Always reduces the chances of misunderstanding and clears up the air as well as expectations
Being stood up with e worst…it does show a total lack of respect. And then not being apologetic when you finally catch up with each other is just as bad.
I think three times in a row is too much, with or without an apology, You should tell * how you feel but in a gentle way if possible, you don’t want to put her off..:???:
Anant: “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”
I know
Phoenix: Yep it hurts… I did feel a lot disrespected
Preethi: Will keep u updated on what happens
dude trust me dont do anything .act as though u r not distrubed .i think this is the best u can do
Ok dude…
Lesson No. 1 in Relationships: Not Talking only increases the size of the problems…
Acting not perterbed is a good idea but I got to make it a point to * not to waste my time
Interestingly enough I feel for you pal. And my story is even more pathetic. :cry:
Haas.. you need to blow her off on something that is REALLY important to her.. she will then learn to be considerate and never do it to you again. .. but while you wait to do that to her.. don’t do anything Vinyas is 100% right.. don’t even mention it.
Hey haas… ‘*’ must know how u feel when ‘*’ does certain things. Your “telling frens when u r pissed” theory is good. I think its about time u tell ‘*’ more than jus that u were pissed
Oh god… don’t listen to Christopher. First off… I’d like to give you advice, haas… but I don’t know how close you are to * to begin with. If you have been fairly good friends for a while and you’re wanting to move it to the next level, I’d say you should definitely tell her how you feel (or at least ask her about it because there might be an explanation). But that’s only because there is a relationship already (even if its just a friendship and I agree that if that relationship is to continue on any level, you should be honest and communicate. If she’s not really a friend, but still just a girl you kind of like, then you need to take 3 times being stood up as a hint that she doesn’t like you and let it go. Don’t even mention it to her. If you go this route, one of two things will happen… 1. you put yourself in a position not to be walked on by this girl who doesn’t have enough respect to apologize or enough interest in you to show up, and 2. if you don’t come off as whiney about being “wronged,” but more like she’s no big deal to you, she may end up being more interested after all. That’s my humble opinion.
Posted an update. Thanks everyone for your advice and concern, things hv gotten much better
When a person stands you up they demonstrate disregard, indifference and lack of integrity to the commitment they have made to you, thus disrespecting you in the process. My boyfriend did this to me for our first official date, I was still really crazy about him and wrote it off but when it happened the second time I left him. Because all I got after it happened the second time is a text message!!!! If he really cared about me, he would have a least put in effort for an apology.
It’s really sad because we where really good together, but in the end we was a fuckwit like the rest!
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