“Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?”
“Immaturity?”
That if you have recognized was a quote from Dangerous Liaisons… I am reminded of that line more often than I need to and I was reminded of it yesterday in a conversion with a friend… No, people just don’t quote that line… better yet they talk about experience and scenarios that prove the truthfulness of that line!
So why is it that we are compelled to run after the ones that run away?
That question has me puzzled for a very long time now… I have my own set of explanations and here they are…
I believe the root cause of it is in how people are… Its a basic need for more that drives people. Think of it like this… how many people truly appreciate what they already have, most of them are too busy perusing their next conquest… That is actually a sign of moving ahead, to have the drive to not be satisfied with what you already have and to go after what you dont.
No, this does not mean that they don’t care about the ones that love them but instead are just too engrossed in trying to make the few that don’t know them well enough, to love them… that they forget about the ones that have always loved them. (phew!)
You always think about that friend who doesn’t call you enough… wondering why he/she has not called but how often do you wonder about the ones that call you regularly? Its that habit of taking things for granted that drives a stake thru the heart of that good relationship that you had but never noticed.
I think the truly intelligent people are the ones that can recognize when to stop running and wait for the ones running behind them… Its actually quiet simple
“How can I expect someone to love me… if I don’t love the one that already loves me?”