I dont understand how some people think that not talking will solve relationships… It can take you to divorce attorneys and attorneys for child custody cases! I know 4 friends(in pairs) who dont talk to each other. They can enter a room with the other person in it and act as if that person did not exist at all. This kindof behavior will go unnoticed for a while after which it will really get irritating depending on how close you are to both of them.
The first pair of friends hv not spoken to each other ‘properly’ (hi, bye, pass the ketchup… does not count) in about 15 months now. The weird thing is one of them was angry with the other and the second guy had no idea why… Its hard to tell someone “Im not talking to you anymore” (kindof breaks the idea if you “tell” them :P ). The most painful part of the whole thing was that I was doing a project with them and it was just the 3 of us… I played the “child in a divorce settlement” passing info like “tell him this…”. The project finished without much problems and a year later they are still not over the issue. Its hard to point out the blame but both for the best of my knowledge hv tried to talk and given up.
The second pair is a bit more recent… It started with an argument which I know was so in the moment and then they just stopped talking. If people stopped talking based on different opinions then nobody in the world would be taking… Opinions exist coz they are different, think about it. Its been a few months and they still dont talk and even though they have little interaction its irritating to be between the tension sometimes when their paths cross…
Anyway this whole think got me thinking about when was the last time I made conscious effort not to talk to someone… Weirdly it was coz I had a crush on the girl and when ever I would go to talk I would enter a fit of incoherent blabbering… obviously after 2-3 attempts I realized that I would be doing more harm keeping my mouth open so decided to well stop talking with the person… Which btw is the worst way to go ahead in a relationship(wait a sec Im just repeating the same thing again and again)… I hvnt found a good solution to this prob, any advice will be accepted with graciousness :)
I hv learnt from the mistakes of my other friends and if I enter such a situation… I just try to keep away from the topic which will get us both aggravated for a while, that always works, sometimes just saying “can we talk about something else” can save friendships…
About the 4 of you guys… I know the 4 of you will probably read it and immediately know Im talking about you… This is probably a cheap attempt to get you guys back to what you were a few(or lot of) months ago, But I so hope that you guys get the issues settled… Go ahead pick up that phone and give a call, start with “Hi, how ru? How is work?” and I promise the other end will respond back :) You guys hv know each other for 4 years(or more) now and its just stupid to let one small mistake destroy all that…